I would not want to compare an individual made in the image of our Heavenly Creator with a drained automotive battery, but, yes, I believe God gives up trying to reach some people. I base this belief partly on Romans 1:28 which reads, “And just as they did not see fit to acknowledge God any longer, God gave them over to a depraved mind, to do those things which are not proper (NASB).”
In my many years, I have seen God reach out to people again and again. And I can attest by Scripture and my own personal observations that God is the God of second and third and fourth and fifth and six and seven and more chances. In my own life, He has demonstrated incredible patience with me. I have made a lot of bone-headed mistakes and I am guilty of some pretty outlandish behaviors. And yet, He has dealt mercifully and graciously with me. Why has He been so good to me? It is not that I am worth it. He is good. There is no other explanation. God is good. I like the maxim that says, “God’s grace is greater than our disgrace.” How true this is.
You and I have a free will. As such, we can resist God’s grace. We can say “No” to Him. When He knocks at the door of our heart, we can let him in or we can turn Him away. Most people turn Him away.
Each time an individual says “No” to His grace, I believe the person’s heart become a bit more calloused. If you play guitar or perform manual labor with your hands, you understand that a callous is a hard layer of toughened skin that has no feelings. My friend, who is a very fine guitarist, has thick callouses on his fingertips from pulling and bending steel strings. One could poke a needle in these callouses without causing him pain or discomfort.
Those who turn away from God again and again have calloused hearts.
Though you might not like what I am going to say, I believe God knows who will and who will not come to Him. His grace cannot penetrate those thickened, calloused hearts. And may we remember that God is sovereign. He can do as He wishes without answering to you or me. And this sovereign God knows when His repeated attempts at saving a sinner are futile.
Let’s go back to my dead battery illustration. No matter how often I twisted the ignition key, the car’s motor was not going to start. And there are those who will not respond to God regardless of His repeated efforts at winning them over.
From time to time, I meet people well into their years who are angry, bitter, and hostile toward God. They are hardened, calloused individuals filled with insolence and unbelief. They are rebels with one foot in the grave. They will have nothing to do with God. They shake their fists at the heavens and willfully deny the goodness of God. And, in the end, He gives them over to their depraved hearts. How this must grieve our Heavenly Father who desires no one to be lost!